4 Ways Male Agents Put Themselves in Danger

January, 2017 Tracey Hawkins
Men are taught to be fearless, and that attitude can make them a prime target for criminals.

David Abbasi. Sidney Cranston Jr. Ryan Vega. Beverly Carter.

You probably recognize only Carter’s name. News of the Arkansas real estate agent’s murder in September 2014 made national headlines and reverberated throughout the industry. Abbasi, Cranston, and Vega, three male real estate professionals, were also victims of recent attacks similar to Carter’s. Abbasi and Cranston were shot to death in the course of daily business, while Vega, fortunately, survived a stabbing during a showing. Why didn’t their cases get as much attention? Because they’re men?

Perhaps lopsided news coverage helps give the impression that women in real estate are more at risk than men. But the truth is men face the same dangers. Twenty-two percent of male real estate professionals reported experiencing a situation in the field in the last year that made them fear for their safety, according to the National Association of REALTORS®’ 2016 Member Safety Report. That compares with 46 percent of females.

Men have distinct behaviors and characteristics that can make them more vulnerable to being victimized on the job than women. In a high-risk occupation such as real estate, knowing what these traits are and how they are dangerous can help male agents work in a safer manner. Here are four to watch out for. (You can also request a handout on my website containing safety tips that pertain particularly to male agents.)

Machismo, or an Invincible Mindset

Why don’t some men take safety more seriously? “Because we’re stupid,” jokes Ronnie Thompson, GRI, SFR, broker-owner of Thompson Realty in Valdese, N.C. “We know it all and have no thoughts about our safety. We believe that no one is going to bother us.”

From an early age, women are taught to fear for their safety. Men, however, are taught to stand up to danger — often on behalf of a woman. It’s not hard to see why some male agents might think nothing will ever happen to them because they’ve been socialized as the stronger sex. “Men have to fight that macho feeling that they can overcome anything,” says Neil Schwartz, CRS, SFR, broker-salesperson at Coldwell Banker Premier in Las Vegas. “The male agents’ mindset is to stand their ground and fight.”

This way of thinking may make men more vulnerable to robbery in particular. Seeing themselves as less of a target, men may be less likely to think about leaving jewelry and expensive electronics at home — which makes them prime game for robbers.

Refusing to Listen to Their Guts

As a safety instructor, the number one tip I teach is to trust your intuition. It’s hardly ever wrong, and listening to it can save your life. But think about the phrase “women’s intuition.” It’s been used to suggest that women overthink things and examine situations in unnecessarily excruciating detail. In matters of safety, that’s a great thing. But some men may dismiss their intuition, vowing not to “overthink.” When your safety is at risk, not listening to your gut won’t serve you well.

Thompson says that if he gets a bad feeling about prospective clients — maybe they refuse to answer key questions about themselves or the transaction — he is willing to walk away. “I believe that the gut reaction is the proper reaction,” he says. “If it doesn’t feel right, I have told clients that I am not the agent for them. I can always get more money, but I only have one life.”

Thinking Safety Training Is for Women

Typically, 30 percent of the attendees at my safety classes are men, and I’m noticing that figure growing. But in talking with real estate professionals around the country, I find that men more often than women neglect basic safety protocol, such as meeting prospects for the first time in the office or a public place, allowing clients to lead through a showing, or watching what information they expose about themselves online. That’s because fewer men are coming to the classes where they can learn safe work practices. They’re robbing themselves of the opportunity to learn the latest in safety techniques.

Hopefully, this will change: Only 19 percent of REALTORS® have participated in a REALTOR® Safety course, and of those, 13 percent were men, according to NAR’s 2016 Member Safety Report.

Ignorance About Crimes Against Their Peers

Though a spate of attacks on male agents have made headlines recently, they don’t get as much attention and are not reported as often. Therefore, men are far more likely to be unaware of incidents involving their peers than women.

James Richman, a sales associate with ReeceNichols Real Estate in Kansas City, Mo., says it was the case of Beverly Carter that prompted him to get a concealed carry weapons permit. But he admits to being unaware of more recent crimes against male agents. “The way to get more guys to go to safety training is to share these stories about the male agents [being victimized],” he says. “That makes it more real.”

Men are also less likely to report being attacked to anyone, whether they be law enforcement or loved ones, whereas women are more likely to report crimes against them. If male agents do not report cases of attacks, patterns cannot be identified and warnings cannot be issued. “Safety training must come from the top down,” Richman says. “Leaders [in the real estate industry] have to make it a priority.”

My expert opinion is that safety education must be treated as a consistent, ongoing effort and not as a one-time event to fulfill education credits.

This article is a reprint originally published by the National Association of REALTORS® and Authored by Tracey Hawkins


Waxhaw Realtor Drugged During Home Showing

August 20th, 2016 Charlotte, NC
WAXHAW -- Realtors in the Charlotte area are on alert after getting word a home builder's sales rep may have been poisoned with the date rape drug while showing a model home in Union County.

Maren Brisson Kuester with the Charlotte Regional Realtor Association says for many realtors who work alone, safety is always top of mind.

"100 percent, you have to cautious, I started this business at 23 and I was preached to from the very beginning about being safe."

They received an email from CalAtlantic Homes describing the incident and warning associates. According to the email, on August 20th, the sales rep was with a client when she found a man standing near her desk. It was the second time he'd been to the home, both times he left quickly when he saw she wasn't alone. After drinking from the water bottle that was on her desk, she began to feel ill and called 911.

A report was filed with Union County Sheriffs office five days later but lists few details.

The email CalAtlantic homes says a toxicology screen of the water bottle found traces of a date rape drug.

"As soon as we found out about this we sent out a notice from all social media outlets, not just from the association level but all the different brokerage firms in town started communicating as well," said Kuester.

In their line of work, realtors are in vulnerable situations every day.

"We do our open houses right in the middle of the day, with another person there with us and I always, always, always, tell people where I'm going."

"A realtor sometimes they are in a house showing a house and they're by themselves so its very important they take all their security measure to stay safe,” said CMPD Officer Johnathan Frisk with the Crime Prevention Division.

Now realtors have another worry.

"Don't leave your water bottle laying around anywhere."

No charges have been filed.

Charlotte, NC News Courtesy of Time Warner Cable
By Vanessa Leon
Thursday, September 1, 2016 at 05:00 PM EDT


Attacks on Realtors® are Up 500% with 70% of those attacked being women!

Every day we hear about tragic events about home break ins, rapes and murders. Every day you put yourself out in the public's eye in hopes of making contact with a potential customer. Unfortunately, there are people who use your information against you.

news_ashley_oakland_02_350x263Such was the well known case of Ashley Oakland, a 27 year old Real Estate Agent murdered in Iowa.

Or Julie Roberts a Real Estate Agent in St. Petersburg, Florida

Or the Real Estate Agent in Georgia, that was attacked by a man dressed as a woman.

Or, Sara Anne Walker, a Real Estate Agent from McKinney Texas, murdered by a prospective Buyer.

Or Beverly Carter, a Real Estate Agent from Little Rock, Ark. who was kidnapped and murdered.

And still another Manatee County, FL. a 69-year-old real estate agent was luck to thwart off an an attempted sexual attack.

And the Real Estate Agent attacked while showing a model home in Glenn Allen, Virginia.

And if you think it won't happen in North Carolina, it already has. In Statesville, NC at a Lake Norman home, Real Estate Agent, then 38 year old Diane Gabriel was was bound with duct tape and murdered by a Mooresville man. The body was never found.

The list goes on and on. Don't be a Head Line. Don't take chances. Take action to protect yourself. Click here to find out how.